Who wants to be naked in front of strangers?

If you read MJ's blog than you know we have decided to do a home birth. And I have to say for being a worrier, this makes me worry less. For being pragmatic, it actually makes the most logical sense. I am all for preparing for the worst, but why not try for the best first?

Here are the reasons I like the home birth :
1. Hospitals treat you like you are sick and MJ isn't sick; she is pregnant. If a true emergency arises, then we are close to a hospital that can help her.

2. I want MJ to have all the time she needs and not feel rushed. I don't want any nurse saying "she isn't progressing and needs pitocin". If the baby wants to take 24 hours, then there is a reason. And MJ is strong enough to handle it with me as her coach and her team of Midwives.

3. I am very logical and the thought of trying to give birth lying down makes no sense. Your tail bone would get in the way and make it harder, plus you aren't using gravity to help.

4. Who wants to sit still when you are in pain? I think MJ should have the right to walk around, labor in a tub, lie in a bed, sit on an exercise ball etc. Whatever she wants.

5. Who wants to be naked in front of strangers? I feel the most comfortable at home and I thought of walking around while in labor in front of others does not sound like a good time. I would want privacy. I would want quiet, and darkness and calming music. I don't want busy hospital and lights and people treating me like I am a ticking bomb.

6. I have the option to catch my baby. Yes you did read that right. What an amazing opportunity that would be. The first hands to hold her could be mine. We will see how it goes, but having this as an option is amazing.

7. We get at home help and coaching on breast feeding. The midwives will come every day if needed until the bean figures out what's what.

What it really boils down to is this - I want choices. I want our birth to fit into a timeline that works for the baby - not that works for the hospital. I want an attendant there, that I know, the majority of the time, not our Dr showing up for the last 30 minutes. I want to be treated like we are the only patient that day - not one of 100. So because of all that, we are going with a home birth. We will see how it goes, but I am very excited and confidant. I feel like I am empowered and I am excited that our midwife takes more than an hour with us on each visit - not just 7 minutes like our Dr.

When I ask people to tell me some of the best days of their lives, a child's birth is at the top. So I started to think "Why am I dreading what will be one of the best days of my life." Now that we have chosen a home birth, I can hardly wait for the Queen Bean to arrive.

Documentary Recommendation: The Business of Being Born

Last night we decided to watch a documentary about birth.

It left us questioning why we hadn't thought more about our birth plan. We hadn't put much thought into it, we just figured I would go into labor and see how it goes, maybe I would need pain medication maybe I wouldn't but would go on how Im feeling and what our doctor as the expert recommends.

Umm yeah, after seeing this documentary which was actually done by Ricki Lake surprisingly enough. We are seriously reconsidering what we have opted for. Our next visit to see our Dr. is going to be an interesting one because we want to see how flexible this hospital is to natural childbirth with the aide of a midwife and possibly a doula. I don't want a home birth, but I would consider possibly swapping the hospital for a birthing center so I can do a water birth.

Mostly after seeing this film, I do not want pitocin I do not want an epidural, even if I end up begging for it during the labor. Most importantly I do not want a C-section.

Those of you expecting that read this, PLEASE, consider watching this film and researching your options.

Here is a link to a trailer:

http://www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com/trailer.php

If you have netflix and have wireless internet, it is an option under the instant download queue!